Carved into this rough piece of wood is the Markman family vision.
It represents several years of conversation and process, inspired by a conference session that challenged me to lead our family with purpose and vision.
- Who do you serve?
- What are causes dear to your heart?
- When do you play, rest, and work?
- How do you want to impact your community?
- Which values are most important to you?
For some of my friends, their vision is as polished as a business’s mission, vision, and values. It’s one of the most detailed road maps I’ve ever seen. However, it doesn’t have to be as intricate as that. When you are just starting, it is essential to know your mission will be living and moving. But it’s invaluable to put pen to paper and write it down!
Written vision provides two things:
- A place to start
Do you have dreams in your heart for your family, which you’ve never talked about?
Proverbs 20:5 “The purposes in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw them out.”
The process of a written vision opens the door to communication, which draws out the deep. Then you can begin the process of aligning your desires and merging what God has individually placed on your heart.
Now, even though the etching I’ve shared with you took hours of work, I would change a few things. At any point, we could choose to burn this piece of wood as I would add and subtract ideas, but for years these words have been a family guide.
In our home, we know that prayer, pastoral care, encouraging others to fellowship with the Lord, and worship are what our family holds dear. It’s our calling, passion, and purpose.
I think it’s important to say, do NOT compare. Even we don’t feel like our written statement is complete. But, it’s a worthwhile start to our family vision. And a quick word of encouragement to our newlywed, single parent, and empty nester friends.
Vision for your family begins with you and God.
Children (and even your spouse) are welcomed additions, but they are not the centerpiece.
Find a close friend, mentor, or even coach to help you process the deep things in your heart. Write them down and begin exactly where you are today.
What is your family vision?